My good friend, Matt is here today! I met Matt earlier this year in an online community and then at a conference that we both spoke at over the summer. Matt is about to release his book, Redefine Rich, and is one of the most genuine guys out there. I am honored to have him here!
On a recent trip to Nashville, I met with an old college friend. Like myself, he has three kids. But, Lord be with him; he has three girls. I arrived at their home just after they had put their girls to bed.
As we began our chat, his wife came in to say hello. I asked her how things were going and she said, “These girls! Oh my goodness, I have no patience sometimes. Ryan, he’s great with them, so content to just sit and play dolls or dress up, but me, goodness, I’m just like, ‘Go to bed!l”
She was right. My buddy, Ryan, is probably one of the most even-keeled, patient people I know. I glanced at him and he smiled.
I’d love to say that I mimic Ryan in this characteristic, but I probably tend toward the other end of that spectrum. You see, I prefer doing, teaching. I’m always looking for opportunities to teach and to coach.
My wife, however, better portrays Ryan’s qualities in our family. She sits with our boys, plays with them; simply, she does a great job of being.
Too often, my desire to teach outpaces my necessity to just be. And it’s probably the number one thing I struggle with; my greatest weakness.
So often, my desire to help people outruns my ability to understand them first and I don’t end up helping them at all. My desire to speak outpaces my willingness to listen. It really hurts to admit that, but it’s true.
But, I’m learning. Instead of rushing to offer answers, I’m taking a new approach.
Ready. Aim. Redefine.
In the analogy Ready, Aim, Fire, I’ve lived with the Aim, Fire mentality way too long. I’ve always thought that goals and persistent activity would outpace everything else. If I just keep teaching, maybe they’ll listen.
What I’m learning is that the Ready is terribly important.
How can I possibly know the Aim or the Fire if I’m not listening?
In a world where answers come from countless sources, I’m learning to be present, to ask the right questions, and to listen, first. This yields a much greater understanding and allows me to create a more authentic perspective.
For the longest time, I lived with the Aim, Fire mentality, shooting a barrage of bullets toward a target of material flourishing only to find an ever elusive bullseye.
However, this new perspective has created a readiness that has led to a much deeper, purposeful pursuit of a word, rich.
My book, Redefine Rich, shares this journey and more with countless stories that will challenge you to reconcile your longing for richness to include a much deeper, well-rounded life.
Balance. Simplicity. Purpose. Passion. All of these admirable ambitions should be pursued, but will only be experienced in their fullness if we define them first. And it all begins with perspective.
If you’re like me, this new understanding will create a readiness that reignites hope and sparks passion.
From there, fire away.
Matt Ham is a storyteller and speaker, helping others see and embrace rich living. He’s a successful small-business owner, ranking in the top 1% in his industry. His proudest titles are husband and dad. Matt and his wife Liz, have three sons. You can pre-order his book at Redefinerich.com. You can check out his blog at MattHam.com